Central City Refuge Groups
Day/Time

Monday Nights
7:00pm-9:00pm

Location

Imago Dei Sanctuary
1400 SE Ankeny St.

Childcare

For childcare, please contact
refuge@idcpdx.com

We always have an open class. Learn about safe people and tools for healthy relationships. No commitment required, just drop in. All are welcome!

Other fall groups are currently closed. If you are interested in our spring season of groups, mark your calendar for Introduction and Sign Up Night on February 11 at 7pm. You can hear more about the different groups, meet the facilitators, browse the books, ask questions, and sign up. Small groups start the following week and meet every Monday for about 13 weeks. We find support, trust and accountability working through a transformational process with others experiencing similar life struggles.

If you have questions or want to join our contact list, email refuge@idcpdx.com.

All groups are subject to the availability of facilitators and participants.

Open Class: Safe People

Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships where things have gone wrong.  You may have experienced being judged, manipulated controlled, or worse. The impact of being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. And what’s more, we either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over, or else simply give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again.

Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin?

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance and work. They help identify the healthy and growing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize the traits of relationally untrustworthy people and discover what makes some people relationally safe, as well as how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You’ll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security, and you’ll find out how to develop a balanced approach to relationships.

Genesis Process

Genesis Change groups are gender-specific small groups of people who desire to change because they are tired of struggling with painful chronic personal problems or self-destructive coping behaviors such as drug/alcohol abuse, sex and food. These groups utilize a biblically grounded curriculum called The Genesis Change Process, which guides the participants through their recovery process.

From the text: “The Genesis Change Process is an attempt to provide the necessary understanding, as well as the practical tools, for real and permanent change. It is a blend of biblical principles, understanding of the brain, and proven recovery strategies for not only freedom from self-destructive behaviors, but also addressing the underlying issues that drive them.”

Mending the Soul

Abuse can take on many forms: physical, verbal, sexual, emotional, spiritual… it happens in all kinds of relationships and can be overt and public, or subtle and secretive. While the details of our individual stories may be quite different, the consequences of abuse are often strikingly similar. When we experience abuse, it usually results in feelings of shame, powerlessness, isolation, and emotional detachment. Abuse colors the way we feel about ourselves and the way we relate to God and others. In Mending the Soul, we explore the nature of abuse, learn more about how it may have impacted us, and engage in a process of healing as we reconnect with God and others from a place of hope and healing. Mending the Soul is offered in separate groups for men and for women and typically lasts 12 weeks.

Enneagram

In this group we will explore the unique ways God has designed us and calls us towards healing and spiritual growth. We’ll use the Enneagram as a pathway to self-understanding and growing beyond self-defeating dimensions of our personality, improving relationships, and growing in compassion for others. The Enneagram is a personality typing tool that provides insight into our authentic selves and offers a framework for God’s transformative power to restore us to our truest nature.

Boundaries

Whether in relationships, at work, with our kids, and even with God, boundaries help us determine what is our responsibility and what is the responsibility of others. We will learn how to set limits physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally so that all our relationships can be more healthy and balanced.

Shame and Grace

Shame & Grace is a group that offers the opportunity to process and understand the many ways that shame can infiltrate and affect our lives. Shame is different from guilt, which can be an appropriate feeling of having done something bad. Shame, however, is the corrosive feeling that there is something wrong with who we are. Together, we will learn to identify shame, explore the messages and systems that contribute to shame, share our stories to know that we are not alone, and move into the grace of resting in our beloved identity in Christ.

Grief

The Grief support group provides a place for people who have experienced a significant loss in their lives to process their grief with others who are on a similar journey. Grieving people often feel alone. As a result, receiving support in the context of a Christian community can be very valuable for the healing process.

Participants will engage in journaling, personal sharing, and group interactions. The group will help the participants to connect God’s truth to their life and specific situation, as well as to experience God’s comfort and hope. Together the participants will walk through the core themes in healing from grief presented in The Understanding Your Grief Journal by Alan Wolfelt.

Supporting Mental Health

This group is for family, caregivers, and loved ones of individuals living with mental illness. We will support each other by having space to speak openly about our challenges, grieve together, and discuss tools to help navigate the unique hurdles and disappointments of walking with those who struggle with a mental or emotional imbalance. This group is not designed for individuals who have a mental health struggle themselves but instead is intended to support those who are in relationship with them.

Emotionally Healthy Woman

The Emotionally Healthy Woman provides you a way out of an inauthentic, superficial spirituality to genuine freedom in Christ. This book is for every woman who thinks, ‘I can’t keep pretending everything is fine!’ The journey to emotional health begins by quitting. Geri (the author) quit being afraid of what others think. She quit lying. She quit denying her anger and sadness. She quit living someone else’s life. When you quit those things that are damaging to your soul or the souls of others, you are freed up to choose other ways of being and relating that are rooted in love and lead to life. When you quit for the right reasons, at the right time, and in the right way, you’re on the path not only to emotional health, but also to the true purpose of your life.

Codependency

Codependency is when our lives become defined by the needs and desires of those we are in close relationship with. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. The authors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ Himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead readers through their ten stages of recovery.