We all assume marriage will make it easier to define our identity, make work more valuable and that raising children (or choosing not to) will bring a whole new element to our self-understanding, but this experience simply creates one thing alone. Marriage will either drive us away from Christ and each other as in the garden, or our marriages will birth faithfulness, connecting us closer in a unified joy to Jesus our King. It’s the first garden tragedy— a lonely man looks for something more, he’s given an amazing woman and starts worshiping her; meanwhile she finds hope in what she can achieve, and later on, all of this romanticized, self-fulfillment becomes cursed.

So, just as each of our life circumstances has shaped our understanding of where to find self-fulfillment, our further interpretation of these experiences can be opportunities to help us become inseparable friends or they can tear the marriage apart. Essentially this means that any marriage conversation we have within Imago (whether married or unmarried) will contrast a self-worship and a worship of Christ.

Our hope is in a faithful Father who takes our garden tragedies, restores us, and produces life. He sets the bar at a high spot for the covenant between a husband and wife, but he also provides enough grace necessary to cause this unique promise to flourish. As a community, we’re glad to be a part of the conversation about how to practically connect Christ with the the patterns of your relationships, and to help you discover what your Christ-centered marriage will look like. You’ll find answers to some of our more frequently asked questions below!

For more information, contact Pastor Alex Choi at


We’re Engaged or considering it…

We take great joy in supporting couples on their walk towards marriage. As a church, we ask that you’d participate in a premarital workshop (offered quarterly) and meet at least once with a pastor before your wedding in order to help you understand the life-long marriage experience. 

Do Imago Dei pastors perform marriage ceremonies?

Yes! And our priority is to help you take a few important steps to care for your relationship as you prepare to get married. First, we ask that you attend our premarital workshop and then we’ll begin the process of connecting you to a pastor. Start by filling out a premarital interest form here. Please give us a minimum of 3 months advance notice for all premarital/officiant requests.

Does Imago Dei provide premarital counseling?

Yes! Whether or not an Imago Dei Pastor performs your ceremony, we provide premarital counseling in the form of a quarterly workshop. This workshop format allows us to connect you with other engaged couples for deeper growth and a detailed discussion around your personal stories. You can sign up to get information about the next available workshop by completing and submitting the premarital interest form here. This form includes an initial questionnaire, which must be filled out prior to beginning the workshop. Once you’ve completed the workshop, we’re glad to connect you with a pastor for additional counseling.

If I want a licensed professional premarital counselor, can you recommend someone?

Yes! Imago Dei has an excellent referral list for licensed counselors. Click here.

Can we get married at Imago Dei Community?

A: Yes! Get in touch with our Facilities Director, Scott, at to check on availability for your wedding date and get all the information you need.

We’re Married…


  •  If you’re having major difficulty in your marriage, each of our pastors are glad to meet in order to: Hear your story and connect your situation with what Christ says about your relationship, pray with you, and assess what resources or groups might best aid your relationship. All of this might involve some form of spiritual direction, reconciliation, or intervention.
  • If you’re addressing trauma, addiction, or mental health issues within your relationship, we can refer you to specialized and professional Christian counseling here in Portland. Additionally, we have a fantastic support network through our Refuge recovery groups here at Imago Dei.
  • If you’re feeling stuck in your relationship and you need a couple to walk with you for a longer duration (five sessions), we’d be happy to connect you with a marriage coaching couple within our Imago community that will help identify relational challenges or inspire you to encouraging possibilities in your marriage.

Workshops / Groups

 If you’re looking to grow through your marriage, we have events and ongoing groups:
Seasonally, we address marriage expectations and difficulties, along with how Christ and his gospel is involved in shaping vulnerability, grace and forgiveness in our relationship.

• Jesus Academy: Typically 6-8 weeks, ten people, discussion-based, oftentimes a one hour book-study
• Workshops: 2, two-hour time slots, twenty people, lecture format with Q&A with discussion-based homework, addressing marriage expectations
• Forums: half-day, 100 people, panel and table discussions, experiential lectures, “overcoming challenges and inspiring possibilities in your marriage”

For counsel, referrals or coaching requests, email Pastor Alex Choi at

Single/Dating Resources

If you’re single or dating, we’d recommend meeting with a pastor to help set clear expectations for what the marriage covenant is and isn’t. We’ve found that this can make a major difference in the short-term commitment and long-term patterns that solidify a healthy marriage.

Email Pastor Alex Choi at to get started.  

Marriage Coaches

If you’re needing more than a friend can offer, but aren’t in a crisis situation, we want to provide you with the opportunity to connect with an Imago marriage coaching couple. Our coaches are helpful, simply because they’ve weathered storms in marriage and learned from them. They’ve been married for between 10-40 years, and they see conflict as a useful experience in transforming a marriage. If you’re interested in connecting with a coaching couple, email: Once connected, you can typically expect to meet with your coaches for 5 sessions. 

Our Coaches

Nathan & Brooke Bubna

Nathan and Brooke have been married for 12 years, and good friends for much longer. Brooke cares for their four wild and wonderful kids, while Nathan works as a software developer. We come from quite different backgrounds and love to help people appreciate the challenges and blessings of joined lives.

Alan & Jody Rutherford 

Alan and Jody have been married 25 years. They have an adult son. They’ve mentored couples at Imago Dei for the last 10 years. They use an eclectic approach, drawing from several books about marriage, their favorite being Gary Thomas’s Sacred Marriage.